The Etiquettee to Our Parents
It is not excessive if we as children are devoted to parents or have etiquette towards parents. The amount of service that has been inscribed by our parents will not be replaced by anything in this world.
A mother who is pregnant for 9 months then gives birth through the process of life and death. After being born into the world with his father, he was cared for, nurtured, and raised in full love.
Everything is done without reward and full of sincerity. For this reason, it is important for us to know how to behave with parents.
I firmly believe and believe that the obligation to serve one's parents is a noble commandment and all religions on this earth encourage it as well.
Especially for those of you who are Muslim, filial piety to parents is not only an act of worship but more than that is a manifestation of the commands of Allah Ta'ala as outlined in his words.
Most of us are already aware of the obligation to be filial to our parents, but "perhaps" there are some of us who have not carried out these orders. In the process of implementation, Islam has regulated various provisions of etiquette towards parents.
The Commandment of Obligation of Duties to Parents and Adab Towards Parents
Being filial to both parents is something that is commanded by religion. For a Muslim like you, filial piety is not only about carrying out social norms, namely politeness and respect, but also carrying out the obligations of Allah's commands and carrying out the Sunnah of the Prophet.
Allah Ta'ala in His words has set the provisions of adab towards parents. In QS. An Nisa verse 36, Allah says (meaning):
"Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him. And do good to your parents."
In addition, in another verse Allah ta'ala also says (meaning):
"Say: Let me recite what your Lord has forbidden you, namely: do not associate anything with Him, be kind to your parents." (Surat al-An'am: 151).
Other commands are also listed in the QS. Al Isra: 23 which means: "And your Lord has commanded that you worship nothing but Him and do good to your parents as well as possible."
The three words of Allah ta'ala are direct orders and it is obligatory for Muslims to carry out them.
Adab towards Parents
As Allah ta'ala has commanded in several of His words, that it is obligatory to serve both parents and is an act of high reward value the same as other obligatory acts of worship.
The Qur'an as a holy book that contains the words of Allah ta'ala has set and divided the provisions regarding adab towards parents.
The following is a summary of various etiquette towards parents that 'maybe' consciously or unconsciously we have done it.
This etiquette towards parents is generally a form of manifestation of our daily social life in the family and life in society.
2. Never refute the words of both parents in every action of our lives in the way of truth. If both parents order something that violates religious provisions, convey it politely to refuse it accompanied by reasons why you don't want to carry out the order.
3. Always sweet-faced in front of both parents, because then both parents will feel appreciated. Making a sour face especially with an inappropriate view will only hurt their feelings which in the end will only reap the wrath of Allah ta'ala.
4. Ask for something politely and politely when we want something. Be grateful if the request is granted, and apologize if the request is burdensome, and don't be disappointed if the request is not granted.
Because, parents also have other considerations for the refusal of our request. Try to always maintain the good name, glory and property of our parents, because good parents will bring goodness to us too.
5. Take the initiative to always help ease the work of both, even without orders. Hasten to fulfill their call when needed.
The pleasure of parents means the pleasure of Allah ta'ala. Always ask for opinions from both parents regarding various things in activities. State the reasons politely if you are forced to disagree with them. Ask for permission and blessing from parents so that all activities carried out will receive an abundance of reward and protection.
6. Never be rude, let alone rebuke them with high and painful words. Listen carefully when parents are talking and do not interrupt them.
Honor the friends and relatives of both parents when they are still around, as well as when they are both dead. By glorifying it, we indirectly give respect to our own parents.
Hurry up and meet your parents as soon as possible when they come to visit you. Treat both of them like great guests who should be respected with the best.
7. Go you when you have the blessing of both parents. Never go without the permission of both parents, let alone not notify you of your departure. Politely state the reason for your departure and ask for his blessing.
8. Never cut off communication with them. Greet them as often as possible. There are many ways you can do it if you and your parents are in different places and quite a distance away. Advances in communication technology today make time and distance no longer a big obstacle to stay in touch.
9. Ask permission first when you want to meet them by greeting them. Do not disturb them while they are sleeping or resting.
10. If you want to eat, ask first if they have eaten. Don't eat before they both eat. Or politely ask them to eat together. Honor them both in serving the food provided and do not criticize the food served.
11. Lying is truly hated by Allah the Exalted and mankind. Therefore, do not lie to both of them about something. There are times when parents do something they don't like, don't criticize them for doing that.
12. Always put your parents before your wife and children. Indeed, the pleasure of Allah the Exalted is very dependent on the pleasure of both parents and the wrath of the parents means the wrath of Allah.
13. If you have wealth or a high position, do not be arrogant in front of them because without your parents you would not have reached that stage. Be careful in your words and actions so as not to hurt them emotionally or physically.
14. Meet their needs as much as you can, don't be stingy and stingy with them. Don't wait for those who ask you. If you do this, then this will also happen to your children who will treat you as you treated your parents.
15. If you and your parents are far apart, visit a lot while offering gifts. Gifts are not only in the form of goods but your coming to visit them is the greatest gift for them. All your troubles and forms of concern for your children is a reflection of how your parents treated you while still under their guidance.
16. Honor your parents, especially your mother. Because heaven is under mother's feet. Rest assured that the prayers offered by both parents are very effective and are heard directly by Allah Ta'ala.
17. Never provoke or make them angry because of your actions or words. We will harm this world and the hereafter. Remember, that everything we do to our parents will also happen to us through our children.
18. Even though you are married, our parents also have rights over us. Fulfill your rights obligations to both and always try to combine these rights in a balanced way.
19. There are times when the wife has a disagreement with our parents, make yourself a mediator. Give a wise understanding of the dispute and understand to the wife, you are on her side if your wife is on the right side. This is simply what you do to hope for the pleasure of Allah ta'ala.
20. If you treat other parents well or badly, it is a reflection of how you treat your parents.
21. Stay in touch with your parents when they are still alive in this world and visit their graves when they are dead. Pray for them to always be given health and protection from Allah Ta'ala. Increase sadaqah on behalf of our parents.
There are still so many etiquette towards other parents that appear in our daily lives. Adab towards parents becomes an unwritten guide for us how to say thank you for all the difficulties and efforts of parents in raising us as we are today.
In addition, this adab towards parents can also be used as a field of worship for us while hoping for the reward and pleasure of Allah Ta'ala.
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